1. When you try to talk to someone new, don't walk up to them and mash the A/X button thinking that would work.
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"How to talk to women" by Johnsu,
http://johnsu.deviantart.com/art/How-To-Talk-To-Women-416921669
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So yeah, don't go running around the over world, running into random civilians mashing the talk button trying to get through the random instance. Be smooth and be confident, you never know what that person has to say and it could be crucial information to your mission. Just don't rush a conversation, be invested in the time that you are having with the individual. The first initial verbal contact you have with someone is one of the most important conversations you will have. Also always remember, body language, facial expressions and how the conversation ebbs and flows differs from person to person. By paying attention to detail and what they are saying, you could have yourself an awesome conversation with a just as awesome person.Who knows, the text box may reveal or drop some hints that may help out later on in your story.
2. If you want to get to know someone, do their side quest.
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| Map taken from The Witcher 3 Wildhunt |
I get it, side quests are annoying, go fight this, fetch that, oh hey I need you to trudge through this infested swamp filled with zombies, poison darts and death traps for this one flower I need to complete my orchid collection, oh yeah I'll give you like 5 xp and 3 coins for it. But sometimes they are worth it. It lets the person know that you are interested in them. Take them out to the movies, go with them to a show or two, a couple of dinners here and there. Or just hangout with them and shoot the breeze. Sometimes collecting those key moments could snag you the moments that matter. Find out what makes them unique and learn about their interests, who knows you may even share a couple of hobbies... like comic book collecting.. or boss raids.
3. Invest into your character, grind out those skill points.
Practice makes perfect right? It does, practice helps you be the best you. It's just like grinding in a MMO or any RPG. I need to farm up monster mobs to get skill points to put into my charisma tree, or strength tree. Also, I need to complete missions to earn credits to outfit my character with the best armor for my class type. Explore within your boundaries and once you feel comfortable, take a step further. It's good AND safe to learn what you like and don't like, therefore you can notice red alarms in unknown territory and uncomfortable situations. Figure our what is your style, how you dress, how you carry yourself. Not everyone situation goes as planned or as smoothly as you wanted to. You will face enemies or bosses that can feel out of your league, but that's okay. It is all a learning phase. And when you grind out to higher levels, you will feel more confident tackling a situation your level 5 self felt they couldn't handle before.
4. Find your skill type, what class do you fall under?
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| Final Fantasy Tactics Roleplay taken from http://www.zejroleplaying.org/archive/index.php?thread-1203.html |
Are you a charismatic mage that likes to whimsically woo their guild mates with spells and tricks? Or are you a tanky knight that likes to show off their brawn and ability to protect their friends. Or maybe you are a ninja warrior who shows affection in subtle ways? Everyone has something interesting about them. It's what makes them unique, therefore we all have our own ways when going about our story. Find out what you like and flaunt it, not arrogantly of course, but in a way that would make the person interested in you. It is also good to mesh with people who like the same things you do but it's also fun to try meshing with other class/skill types. Keep in mind, just because you are really into something, doesn't mean the other person is just as into it as you are. There are classes, sub classes and sometimes even more branching paths. You prefer to use sword and shield, they like to use the bow and arrow. But luckily your secondary skill is gauntlets while theirs is daggers. Find ways to meet in the middle.
5. The tutorial does not end after you learn all the controls.
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| From Super Mario Bros. |
Yeah, now you know you can run, jump, talk and fight but now you need to take time to learn the different ways how to use those skills in different situations. Just because Captain Price says, "That's it you passed all obstacles, you're good to go soldier", does not mean you are ready for immediate action. This part takes time and throws random lessons at you from instance to instance. There will be multiple obstacles you will face in people that a straight forward answer will just not work. Sometimes running and jumping into a brick wall doesn't work. Maybe running along then hopping to the ledge may get you there. Same way it can work in a conversation. If an argument arises with a significant other, you will have to find ways to defuse the situation, while still taking away a lesson from the problem. You have the tools, find out different ways to use them.
6. Stop storing old armor sets and weapons in your chest.(Both figuratively and literally).
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| Image taken from Diablo 3 |
Let's be real, no one likes baggage. What is the point of carrying that level 3 sword in your chest if it's not going to help you advance in a shared quest with someone? Why would you want to continuously carry someone else's level 10 junk when you both are 50+? I understand, the past is what makes you, you. But don't throw it all on someone else, expecting them to excuse your behavior because you got that amulet during a quest with someone else. Not everyone wants to here stories or grief about your previous adventures with another significant other. It may cause the other person you are chatting with to leave the chat and block your username. It's good to remember, but not to carry, You will be over encumbered with equipment you don't need. Learn to let go.
7. Trade/barter with them.
Having a relationship and dating someone is an exchange. A give and take event that doesn't necessarily mean goods. It can be lessons you learned, or some kind of insight to who you are as a person. You can't act like a recluse when having a conversation with a person, they might as well be talking to digitized brick wall. You might as well go off alone and farm and do all your quests solo if you are going to put all your points into defense. Exchange experiences, or show off a skill like knowing how to play an instrument, or something physical like going rock climbing, martial arts or swimming. Traveling/questing could be a big hobby too. Also be interested in what they share too, you both could find out you have a lot of things in common. People have goods, but experience has value. And what better way to grind out exp with trading!
8. Do not take on too many missions/quests on all at once.
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| Taken from Fallout 4 |
It's never good to over promise anything, especially in the dating world. If you are dating multiple people, it can get hectic if you are still trying to feel things out. It gets overwhelming and you lose track of it all, therefore putting you in a bad position. We all run on different schedules and we all make agreements here and there. Even if most of them aren't serious yet, we are not operating on your time. We log on and off the world here and there because we have lives to fulfill. And if you are searching for a long term quest mate, stick with that one and handle things together. And if that doesn't work out, then onto the next journey till you find another. Don't go dating 10 different people at once, keep it to a small 2-3 so you can feel it out and who you want to get serious with.
9. Keep your base nice and neat.
So let's say you've done enough side quests with this person and it's time to show them your base of operations. Don't show them a cluttered base where all your equipment is out and mana/health potions are scatter all over the place. No one likes a messy living space and no one wants to take care of another person's personal hygiene. I get it,you have been dating for a while over time, a little mess here and there can be forgiven, but not on the first impressions. If your base is disorganized, how can you operate out of it? Communications will be low and you will definitely get interference from then on out between you and your quest mate.
10. Be the character you set out to be.(Be yourself)
I know I have stated this before and this is still extremely cliche. But remember you are not an NPC or something normal or basic. You are the only you who can be the best you, you can be (Yeah...too much). No point in building yourself to be Cloud strife or trying to become Nathan Drake, because you can't be. These characters are meant to inspire you to be something more and someone interesting enough to invest time in. But still remain the same person at the end of the day standing in front of the person you are interested in. And if they don't like you, then they just aren't for you. You need to help make your side quests awesome for people wanting to play it again. Go ahead, grind out those experience points, put some the skill points wherever you need them to be and hopefully you will find your player 2.
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